But why Therapy?

“Why do you need therapy? You have me!”

That’s a common phrase we hear when we start thinking: I’m not sure I am getting exactly what I need/want from this relationship/friendship.

And I am here to tell you, it’s okay that you feel that way. Both of you.

When someone we love wants to start seeking support elsewhere, we may have a flash of panic. Am I not doing enough for this person? Am I failing them? What am I doing wrong?

It’s not about you, I promise.

We are allowed to seek support away from those closest to us.

But why would we want to do that?

Well…

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We may want to talk to someone unbiased.
-We may want to talk to someone who won’t be at our holiday dinners.
-We may need more insight from someone who has studied the area of concern in our life.
-We may just want somewhere that is our space.

Nobody is required to have it all figured out. Even therapists sometimes have a therapist.

Loved ones also really don’t want the pressure of feeling like we need to know exactly how to support our family/partner. If they want therapy, it’s not that you’re doing a bad job. You’re not missing something. Therapists just want to be included in the support network, not kick you out of it.

Sometimes it’s just really, really nice to go somewhere and have someone hold the space for you. Hear you out. Validate your emotions. Support you in figuring it all out.

Then, leaving the room and returning in a week.

Reach out, ask more if you have questions.